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- Eye tone:
- Huge hazel eyes
- What is my gender:
- My sex is fem
- I prefer to listen:
- I like piercing:
I've only encountered the open minded term in relation to non - judgmental people. Like a close minded person would be homophobic because they don't understand homosexuality. And open minded person wouldn't care about sexuality or race or anything. They're more for the person - not any of the smaller stuff. That's certainly a good point.
in. Whenever I have a conversation with someone, friends or not, I will never comment about their appearance or the way they dress, even if it is just for a joke. Precisely, I will never say to them something like:. You should dress like that sometimes.
What does dressing like a girl or boy mean after all? Why is it not just about the way a person expresses themselves in ways that they feel confident? Everybody is unique. They are beautiful in their own ways.
Not a single soul is alike. Everyone has th e ir own preferences. What they chose to do with their life is their business. How they want to dress themselves is their choice. Their preferences have nothing to do with other people.
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Sometimes a word that seems harmless to someone could leave a mark on someone else. However, not many people realize that the way they talk or even joke can hurt somebody else. When I first ed my current company a year ago, I was the one who sometimes received those kinds of statements or questions. At the moment, in my mind, I was like:. Being a web developer and the only female developer on my teamaccording to the company policy, I could dress in whatever I felt comfortable in as long as it was appropriate.
Hence, I always choose shirts or T-shirts and a pair of jeans because I feel comfortable with these clothes. Yes, I did wear dresses, but on some special occasions only. These incidents got me thinking. Would I receive these statements or questions if I was a male? I mean they are all nice and polite gentlemen.
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What makes these guys leave that a comment like that? My female colleague from HR sometimes tell me that, but I told her I did not like wearing dresses at the office, and then it moved on.
The conversation was casual and friendly. It is the fact that the way they say it is full of stereotypes and it made me feel very annoyed. I know they did not mean to be insulting to me, but I realized that it is their subconsciousness that made them to think in that way and say it out loud. I hesitated to write about this experience of mine in the first place since it was very rare for me to write about myself.
However, I decided to do it because I want anyone who happens to read this article to take a step back and think. Have you ever let your unconscious stereotypes drive you into a situation like this? If yes, please being aware of it because you will never know your subconsciousness stereotypes could hurt someone. Men or women, does it really matter if others do not dress as so-called men or women? As long as they are happy they way they are, why should we bother to tell them otherwise?
Until you open your mind to embrace the difference around you, you will always see things you want to see and filter out whatever does not fit your taste. Self-taught JS developer and Front-end Developer who is learning to write and share what she has learned.
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My story When I first ed my current company a year ago, I was the one who sometimes received those kinds of statements or questions. Why did I write this? Thanks to Olivia Mischianti. from Code Like A Girl.